The art and freedom of learning to say no... Most of us are taught from an early age that being 'selfless' is a good thing and there are many proven benefits of altruism to both our mental and physical well-being. But to push ourselves to the limit and please others all of the time may mean giving … Continue reading Are you a people pleaser? The art of No…
Author: kbnewleafcounselling
Christmas: Festive or Frantic?
Christmas can be a time for celebration but for many people it can be a time of stress, anxiety, disappointment or loneliness, especially for those going through difficult time. My family loves Christmas but I often enter the festive season with a little trepidation... Christmas 2020 is different for us all and this will bring … Continue reading Christmas: Festive or Frantic?
The Anxiety Gremlin!
Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. Anxiety is something that is very topical at the moment and with new rules and routines in place because of the pandemic and children returning to school after 6 months at home it feels like a good time … Continue reading The Anxiety Gremlin!
New beginnings, a new normal. Is September the new January?
Do you feel inspired to turn over a new leaf this September or is it just me? This September seems to be a great time for a fresh start, new resolutions and a chance to make a change for the better. After six months at home, it feels like lockdown is finally being lifted in … Continue reading New beginnings, a new normal. Is September the new January?
Accepting change in the changing world…
A new home, a new part of the country to familiarise yourself with, new friends to make and new work to focus on. Change is something that we are all very familiar with as we are part of a world where we have to move on every few years. We often leave good friends and … Continue reading Accepting change in the changing world…
Mind Traps – being mindful of the power of your thoughts…
'Mind traps' or 'thinking traps' are patterns of thought and are also know as 'cognitive distortions' as they usually come with a negative swing which prevent us from seeing things as they really are. It is a way that our mind convinces us of one thing when in reality its completely untrue. Mind traps can … Continue reading Mind Traps – being mindful of the power of your thoughts…
Mother guilt: In this new way of life…
Mother's guilt is only natural and is the consequence of wanting to be a good mother to your children. However, in the end it won’t do us any good.. The summer term is well under way and it is different for all of us. Life now has brought so many new and unexpected challenges including … Continue reading Mother guilt: In this new way of life…
Mental health and the military spouse…
A lot of my work involves supporting military spouses or children and this is probably because I am also a military wife. For the past 25 years I have experienced what this life brings with it, the frequent moves, the constant change, the saying goodbye and the disruption to our family. There is also the … Continue reading Mental health and the military spouse…
Grief, the space that is left by love.
Grief is a feeling that we will all experience at some time in our lives… I started my professional counselling journey training to be a bereavement support volunteer with Cruse. Working with adults and children in their own homes was inspiring and a real privilege, as well as being quite challenging at times. I have … Continue reading Grief, the space that is left by love.
My favourite online Mental Health Apps…
Our online world is already fast paced and it won’t be slowing down anytime soon, especially as we are relying on the internet more and more since we have been confined to our homes. Our phones ding, beep, or vibrate what seems like every 30 seconds, alerting us an event, email, or text. The news … Continue reading My favourite online Mental Health Apps…